Bageling

B"H

While going through some old e-mail in a vain attempt to clear out some room from my 70+% full mail box, I found this hysterical article (I googled it to find a link -- this is a link to it:
Bageling Article
please read the article and then come back here)

This article reminded me of an experience that happened to me many years ago. When I was in High School, I used to travel on the bus to NYC. Being the only person from my HS who lived in my community, I spent long hours (the ride was about an hour in each direction) riding the bus solo so when I found out that a friend of mine, who took a different bus but one I could take too, though it would take me a bit longer in each direction, was also going to HS in NY, I changed to her bus so I wouldn't have to ride alone.

One Friday, while we were waiting to get on the bus (and the crowd was light since we got out early on Friday) we noticed a cute guy probably not much older than we wearing a Kippa. Being that we both found him attractive, my friend whispered to me, "we've got to talk about school but don't talk about your Mr. or Mrs. teachers, only talk about your Rabbi teachers." This seemed like a good idea to me, so that's what we did. She ended up having a bit of a fling (as in a Yeshiva girl sort of fling -- as in they sat together on the bus and "made out") with him and I ended up riding alone again (at least until his stop on the bus).

I guess that was one "bageling" incident in my life. I've definitely had others -- talking to friends in stores about shul and hagim (Jewish holidays) and Shabbat and the like within earshot of someone I know to be Jewish (or suspect to be Jewish and want to test).

A number of years back, when my hashkafa wasn't disappearing from the face of this earth, I thought about how I can look at a guy and know he's Modern Orthodox (if he dresses a certain way and wears a crocheted kippa, for example) but how would a guy know by looking at me (I rarely wear anything that would be pick me out as a Shomeret Shabbat Jew) that I was Modern Orthodox too (I don't look particularly Jewish, though I don't look particularly non-Jewish either). My idea was to create a necklace (I used "shrinky dink" for the job) with two letter shins on it (standing for Shomeret Shabbat). I thought if I were to wear it around, people would ask what it meant and the idea might catch on. It didn't. !

Anyway, I'd love to hear your "bageling" stories. Just use the comment section and let's see how many stories we can get here.

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Going on the At-tax

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I come from a politically liberal family. And my Mother went to public school (in a time before Yeshiva day schools were as common as they are today, thank G-d, KI"H). So we always supported property taxes as a way to contribute to the public school system even if we ourselves were attending Yeshiva day school.

For better or worse, many people from my generation don't remember a time or didn't live in a place where the only schools available were either public schools, private schools (way too expensive) or Catholic (or other Christian) schools. They don't realize what the choices might be for them (and their children) if the public schools were to fold, to cease to exist.

I say this because I seem, on a semi-regular basis, to receive unwanted, unsolicited mail that usually comes in envelopes without a return address and almost always expresses the opinion that property taxes are too high and that everyone should fight having to pay them especially if they have no family members who attend public school.

I find these mailings distasteful. They show, IMHO, a side of people that doesn't see the larger picture and doesn't see a Tora point of view. The Tora always encourages us to be good citizens, to support community services. Even if there were no reason that any Jewish child would be attending the public schools, it should be our duty, nay, our privilege, to support the schools that are educating our Gentile neighbors. We should be participating in every way in this endeavor because it is to our advantage that they people of the world be educated (especially those educated in the truth).

So if you're out there and you're bemoaning paying property taxes to support a school your children don't attend, see it as an opportunity to contribute to a better community, a better society and a better world (and while you're at it, volunteer at the schools if you have the time -- it's more of an opportunity to educate the masses).

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Losing our religion

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By heritage I'm mostly Ashkenzic. But in my heart, I'm Sephardic. I think it might have something to do with Sephardic ancestors or maybe it's that I'm drawn to the Spanish language (and, by extension, or perhaps it's Spanish by extension, Ladino). I've been in love with Sephardic (and Mizrahi) culture since I knew there was a difference between Ashkenazic and Sephardic.

The Sephardic (and Mizrahi) cultures grew around the Mediterranean area where the weather is similar to that of Israel. Ashkenazic culture grew away from the Mediterranean area, in the more Northern areas of Europe (like Germany, Poland, Lithuania and Russia, all in colder climates than Spain, Turkey, Morocco, etc. where the Sephardic culture grew).

Because of the change of venue, Ashkenazic Jews often had to come up with other customs. An example of this is Marror (bitter herb for the Passover Seder -- in the Talmud, romaine lettuce is the preferred Marror but because Jews moved to areas of the world where romaine lettuce would not be available in April (around the time of year Passover occurs), the current more popular Marror in Ashkenazic communities is grated horseradish root.

Unfortunately, Ashkenazim (and I am officially Ashkenazic) have a tendancy to be chauvinistic (in this specific case I don't mean sexist, even though a lot of Orthodox and "black hatter" Orthodox have a tendancy to be sexist too). That is, they think only their way is right.

Often, the Sephardic way of doing things is different from the Ashkenazic way. Sephardim follow the Shulhan Arukh, a book of Halakha (Jewish Law) written by Rabbi Yosef Caro in the 16th Century. It didn't take long for the Ashkenazic community to start adding on to this work.

The biggest issue in this regard is that since Ashkenazim are woefully uninformed about Sephardic customs, they often interpret Sephardic customs, culture and halakha as being inferior in some way to their "brand" of observance.

I see this happen in just about every Sephardic community -- Sephardim often have to defer to the Ashkenazic way of doing things. Sephardim, consequently, are forgetting their customs and observances.

Since the Sephardic way is often the way of the Mediterranean area and, hence, the original Israel custom, it is important that these customs be preserved. It is wrong for Ashkenazim to treat Sephardic customs as substandard. It is wrong for Ashkenazim to push their ideas and opinions on Sephardim. But it is equally wrong for Sephardim to allow it. Sephardim should stand up to Ashkenazim.

When Moshiah comes, he will be the one to figure out which is the appropriate custom. In the meantime, all customs and variations of Halakha need to be respected. Always.

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Intermarriage "R" Us

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A couple of weeks ago, there was an article lauding intermarriage in our local Jewish newspaper. I couldn't let this pass without a response. So I wrote an article in answer.

The author of the pro-intermarriage article had some pretty unconvincing reasons for intermarrying. He said that Christians had also suffered at the hands of the Nazis and sort of implied that this made it ok to marry Gentiles. I said that, while it was terrible that Christians suffered at the hands of the Nazis (his figures on the number of Christians killed by the Nazis was inflated and, according to my best friend, who knows more about this sort of thing than I do, probably came from some white supremacist site), but this was irrelevant when it comes to discussing intermarriage because intermarriage has nothing to do with shared suffering and didn't begin when Jews were persecuted. I said that Jews were protecting a way of life, Shabbat, Kashrut, family purity laws, and these were things that were intrusive lifestyle differences.

I got a lot of positive feedback to the article I wrote. But one friend gave me the best feedback of all. She's a friend of mine (and a very sweet person) who I sing with in my Jewish community choir. She told me she loved my article and gave me a big hug. I then told her that I should have added something to my article. I started explaining what I thought I should have said by telling a joke.

A congregation hired a new Rabbi. His first Shabbat giving a d'var Tora, he talked about Shabbat. The board members came to him after the sermon and said, "Since we have a lot of members who don't keep Shabbat, please don't talk about Shabbat." The next week he spoke about Kashrut. The board members came to him after the sermon and said, "Since we have a lot of members who don't keep Kosher, please don't talk about Kashrut." The next week, he talked about intermarriage. The board members came to him after the sermon and said, "Since we have a lot of members who are intermarried, please don't talk about intermarriage." Finally, in desperation, the Rabbi says to the board, "well, what should I talk about?" The members of the board smiled and the president said, "Judaism!"

I should have said that even if you don't keep Shabbat, Kashrut and family purity laws, preserving our heritage is Judaism and Shabbat, Kashrut, family purity and the Mitzvot are what makes Judaism Jewish. These are the essence of what being Jewish means. Judaism isn't some social club. It's a way of life, and a way that gives life meaning.

When Hashem (G-d) gave the Tora, (S)He gave us a guide for living a perfect life. If everyone in the world followed the Tora (Jews following our laws, Gentiles following their 7 Mitzvot) perfectly, we would all have perfect lives. (Of course, since we are human, it would be impossible for us to follow the Tora perfectly, but the closer we come to perfection, the closer our lives will come to perfection.)

Rabbi Kuk used to say that there are two kinds of Jews -- those who are religiously observant and those who are not yet religiously observant. I tend to agree with him. I see every non-observant Jew as someone who might one day be observant and, in being observant, might bring him/herself and the earth closer to that perfection.

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Why I created this blog

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This past Shabbat (Sabbath), my Rabbi spoke about a young man who he was working with. He was a nice young Jewish man who had fallen prey to the "Jews for J***s" and was now questioning this move. The problem was that this young gentleman was so confused that he just didn't know which way to go.

I can understand his confusion, though I don't share it. I was fortunate enough to have a good Yeshiva (Jewish religious school) education so I know what it is that is so wonderful about Judaism. And even with that, I had some years of confusion in my late teens to early twenties.

But the thing is, the Tora shows the path to a good life. The Tora life is basically a good life, a moral life, a life that fits with the circadian rhythms of the world, the flora and fauna of earth, the cosmos and G-d. The Tora is basically a "user's manual" for the world written by the Creator of the world.

In any case, I decided it was time for me to present a Tora view of the world (Keep in mind, I said "a Tora view" NOT "The Tora view") of things. The title for this blog came from the blog entry below, which first appeared on my Israel and its Place in the World blog:

Last night, I was one of the privileged few (I heard 15 hundred???) who was part of Brigitte Gabriel's conference call "town meeting". I missed the beginning (I was talking to my best friend), but I was on the phone listening (with the mute on the phone) for over a half hour.

Brigitte Gabriel's organization, American Congress for Truth, is trying to defeat Islamofascism in the United States and the World. For that I applaud her and the organization.

But as a Jew (in particular, an Orthodox Zionistic Jew) I have an issue. The issue is not specifically with Brigitte. We have for centuries had to deal with hatred and people wanting to destroy us and most of the time they fell into one of two categories: the Hamans of the world (represented by Purim), who wanted to destroy our bodies, and the Antiochuses of the world (represented by Hanuka), who wanted to destroy our souls.

Hitler was a Haman. Torquemada, for all the Jews whose murder he had a hand in, was an Antiochus.

But in this century we have to deal with both Haman and Antiochus. The Muslims want to kill us like Haman and the Christians, with all their "love bombing" and deceptive Messianic tactics, like Antiochus, want our souls.

This puts us in a very strange position. Politics makes strange bedfellows and for us right now we have to "to go bed", so to speak, with the Christian right, the very people who are after our souls with their financial support of Jews for Jesus, because they are the people in the US who are actually supportive of Israel. These are the people who visit Israel, who get up on their Radio and Television shows and promote Israel. These are the people who are working on fighting the Islamofascists, the ones who lauded Israel for attacking terrorists in the south of (the Syrian puppet regime of) Lebanon.

But these are also the people who are trying to convert us. These are the people who think that their quickest route to heaven is by converting Jews. These are the people who believe we will burn in hell for all eternity. And these are the people, who, in their heart of hearts, believe that when Jesus "returns" in his "second coming", those of us who don't join them in the final war of Armageddon will die.

These are the people who use the word "crusade" to describe a holy mission against the Muslims. But what they either don't know or choose to forget is that for us Jews, the Crusades were hardly a picnic. Just as we are today, we were sandwiched between the two big religious "super powers".

What neither side seems to understand (probably because both sides are so entrenched in societies where their religion holds sway to the extent that they don't need to analyze other ideas) is that there is a very good reason that Jews have historically not converted. Obviously, it's not because we lived in societies where OUR religion held sway. So maybe, just maybe, there's something more to Judaism than either "side" wants to admit. Maybe, just maybe, our way of life is so meaningful that we just don't want to live any other way. But as a Rabbi I know once said, it's like being inside a circle and all the people inside the circle understand what's great about the circle. But the people outside the circle don't understand. And they probably never will until they come into the circle, if only for a short time.

Judaism, unlike Christianity and Islam, doesn't claim that its adherents have a corner on truth, justice or goodness. We don't say that if you aren't Jewish you will "burn in hell for all eternity". That's because we don't have to scare people into following our Tora. The Tora has a special place for Gentiles. There are laws that non-Jews are responsible for. These are basically moral laws, like not murdering (yes, murdering -- it doesn't say in the 10 "commandments" that you shall not kill, it says you shall not MURDER), not stealing, not having inappropriate sexual relations (like adultery and incest), setting up courts, not worshiping idols, not pulling a limb off a live animal, etc.

We don't need to scare people into following our Tora because we know that following the Tora is to everyone's benefit. From my perspective, you only need to scare people into following your religion if you instinctively know it's not the truth.

So what can we do? How can we protect ourselves from the two pieces of bread in the Jewish Sandwich? I don't know. But one thing I do know -- we can't protect ourselves by giving away our land or by arming our enemies or by ignoring the missionaries. We can't protect ourselves by ignoring the Tora. And we can't protect ourselves by turning our backs on G-d.

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